episodes

Negativity is contagious (no duh). We can set limits on the whining and the “No!”, but maybe detaching our emotional states from those of our cranky children is the best place to start. A neutral response makes negativity less interesting sooner.

A listener is getting worn down by her toddler's frequent tantrums.

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Which may explain some of the domestic tension that’s coming from being with our spouses 24/7. We used to have to plan date nights to reconnect- should we now schedule time apart? Guest: Damona Hoffman.

A listener dreads “playing pretend” with her 3-year-old. But her child is an only child, and right now she is that child’s only playmate. How can she put limits on it without disappointing her child? How can she enjoy the playtime they do have more?

All mothers overthink sometimes. Isn’t that the exact assignment the world gives us? Only to then mock us relentlessly for having done so? But yes, we admit: here are a few of the parenting topics that, looking back, we just MAY have overthought.

A listener asks: “Does anyone else have a kid that always wants to play the “mean” guy? My almost 3-year-old son always wants to play the villain, and hardly ever the hero or “nice guy”. Is this normal? Or am I raising a future bad boy?

Momming is hard. Whether we’re stressed perfectionists or hot messes, our homes and relationships get happier when we do what matters, skip what doesn’t– and clarify what goes in what pile FOR US. Guest: Kendra Adachi, author of THE LAZY GENIUS WAY.

Margaret answers a question from a listener who is worried that her son does not have a wide range of interests.

Amy’s family of 5 had Covid-19 back in March– all “mild” cases, but even in a single household that has meant different things. Here’s how it went down, what Amy has learned, what recovery has looked like, and what to have ready before you need it.

Our kids’ schools have sent plans. And revised them. And reversed them. Now parents have to make our own decisions. Here are the factors driving our own plans– knowing this can’t be one-solution-fits-all, and that the ‘right’ answer does not exist.

A listener asks whether her daughter's know-it-all tendencies need to be nipped in the bud.

Our daughters need to be taught to ask and negotiate–because girls aren’t taught those things as well as boys, but also because the world doesn’t always reward women (including grownups) who speak out. Guest: Marisa Porges, author of WHAT GIRLS NEED.

Margaret answers question from a mom who is scaring her by constantly throwing things.

As soon as you become a mother unsolicited advice-givers are everywhere, telling you to “sleep when the baby sleeps.” Or “it gets easier.” Or “enjoy every moment.” Out of all the advice that we and our listeners have received, here is the very worst.

Amy answers a question from a listener who is having trouble connecting with other moms during coronavirus.

We asked our listeners to divide the world into two kinds of people. Summer or winter? Sleep cuddlers or stop-breathing-on-mes? Many of you responded with slightly judgmental “there’s me, and the crazy people” responses that we are totally here for.

This week Margaret answers a question from a listener who wants to know if life with her two young kids is ever going to get better!

We are so done with life on the coronacoaster, but we can’t get off this ride yet. We’ve moved past denial to bargaining, hung out in depression- and now we’re doubling back to anger, not feeling the acceptance part so much. We’re hitting the wall.

We tend to hold our Bad Mom Moments close, deeply certain no other mother has ever temporarily forgotten her baby in the Target LEGO aisle. Spoiler alert– you’re not alone. Guest: Arianna Bradford, author of SHAME ON YOU: BIG TRUTHS FROM A BAD MOM.

Margaret answers a question from a listener who is worried about leaving her three year old for a few nights.

This extended pause has been really hard for some of our kids, and actually sort of good for others. We discuss the things we’ve learned and will take forward as parents, both for kids who have weirdly thrived and for kids who have really struggled.

Amy answers a question from a reader who wonders how she can encourage reading in her child.

We’re in an anxiety-provoking moment. But parents don’t need to present our kids with solutions to the things that scare them. We just need to meet them where they are. Guest: Dr. Abigail Gewirtz, author of WHEN THE WORLD FEELS LIKE A SCARY PLACE.

Margaret answers a question from a listener who is frustrated by her husband's extremely poor gift-giving skills.