April 29, 2022

Fresh Take: Iris Chen on "Untigering"

Iris Chen is a recovering tiger mother and founder of the Untigering movement, which emphasizes shifting away from parenting that is rooted in power to parenting that is grounded in partnership. Iris explains how to begin the untigering process.

Iris Chen was raised in the "tiger parenting" model, and began her parenting journey using similarly authoritarian and strict tactics– until she considered whether there might be another path, an approach to parenting that was rooted in partnership rather than in power. So Iris founded the "Untigering" movement, exploring a more peaceful parenting approach, and wrote the book "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent."

In this episode, Margaret, Amy, and Iris discuss:

  • Navigating parenting at the intersection of American and Chinese identities
  • The turning point for Iris when she decided to "untiger"
  • How we all can practice peaceful parenting in our daily lives


Find Iris on social media @untigering and at https://untigering.com/.

Buy her UNTIGERING book here!


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