Oct. 15, 2026

Fresh Take: Sam Kelly on Teaching Kids About the Mental Load

Fresh Take: Sam Kelly on Teaching Kids About the Mental Load
What Fresh Hell
Fresh Take: Sam Kelly on Teaching Kids About the Mental Load

Tired of being the only one in your home who notices the things that need doing? Sam Kelly, author of the new book NOTICE AND DO, explains how teaching kids the "Notice and Do" method can transform your household.

What if kids didn't need chore charts and constant supervision in order to participate in the lives of their households? What if the "mental load" was seen as a family-wide issue, where everyone could contribute to the solution?

Sam Kelly, creator of the "Notice and Do" method and author of the new book NOTICE AND DO: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load, is here to tell us there's another way.

Amy and Sam discuss:

  • The "delegator trap"—why constantly assigning tasks keeps moms responsible for the "noticing"
  • Using a "learning ladder" to teach kids of all ages how to take over household tasks, step by step
  • Handling the pushback you might receive as you roll out the "notice and do" method
  • How kids who "notice and do" have agency and take initiative beyond the walls of your home
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