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The Small Things That Drive Moms Insane
Nov. 13, 2019

The Small Things That Drive Moms Insane

Sometimes it’s the little things that make us the craziest: the plastic thingies on juice box straws. The never-ending “Mom?” with that question mark at the end. Here’s all the teeny-tiny things about mom life that still manage to drive us insane.

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Better Then or Better Now?
Oct. 30, 2019

Better Then or Better Now?

Anyone old enough to remember New Coke thinks things were better in the free-wheeling, “come home when it’s dark” days of our childhood. But were they really? We decide whether the things we loved are better then or better now- for kids AND for moms.

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Changing the Invisible Workload (with guest Eve Rodsky)
Oct. 23, 2019

Changing the Invisible Workload (with guest Eve Rodsky)

If you make a list of all the stuff you do that your spouse has no idea happens, it will probably be very long and rage-inducing. So don’t stop there! Here’s how to redistribute the household workload for good. Guest Eve Rodsky, author of FAIR PLAY.

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When We Should (And Shouldn't) Rescue Our Kids
Oct. 16, 2019

When We Should (And Shouldn't) Rescue Our Kids

When kids need rescuing, they look to Mom. Whether we do so or not, we’re left second-guessing whatever it is we just did. Here’s when we should step in, and when we should hang back— and how to give our kids the gift of solving their own problems.

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Parenting With An Audience
Oct. 9, 2019

Parenting With An Audience

Have you ever felt coerced into parenting in a way you usually wouldn’t because you were in public? Is the disapproval of Aunt Joan even worse than eyerolls from strangers? Here’s how to stay focused even when it’s YOUR kid screaming on the airplane.

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When Other Kids Are Bad Influences
Oct. 2, 2019

When Other Kids Are Bad Influences

What is it about the kid who throws sand that other kids find so irresistible? How do we keep our kids away from bad influences in their lives, especially as they get older? And why do parents sometimes peg exactly the wrong kids as good influences?

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Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions
Sept. 25, 2019

Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions

We asked all of you for your hot takes and unpopular opinions. From athleisure to mayonnaise to french-fry consistency to the enduring fame of Coldplay, these are your extremely fervent feelings about things most of us hadn’t seriously considered.

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Managing the Grandparent Relationship
Sept. 11, 2019

Managing the Grandparent Relationship

What do we do when our parents overindulge our kids? Or undermine our parenting choices in front of them? What about when our parents don't seem interested in our kids at all? Here’s how to create grandparent relationships that work for everyone.

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How To Prepare Our Kids Now to Be Grown and Flown (with guest Lisa Heffernan)
Sept. 4, 2019

How To Prepare Our Kids Now to Be Grown and Flown (with guest Lisa He…

Our kids are pretty happy being dependent on us. Doesn’t a grilled cheese taste so much better when Mom makes it? So how do we start the nest-leaving process early and often? Guest: Mary Dell Harrington, co-author of the new book GROWN AND FLOWN.

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Parenting Styles: Which Ones Are We (And Should We Care?)
Aug. 21, 2019

Parenting Styles: Which Ones Are We (And Should We Care?)

Helicopter moms, snowplow moms, tiger moms, free-range moms…these parenting types are usually defined in the negative: well, at least I’m not THAT. But might there be useful takeaways from any parenting style that we can custom-blend for ourselves?

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Husband Crimes: Can This Marriage Be Saved?
Aug. 14, 2019

Husband Crimes: Can This Marriage Be Saved?

We asked you to tell us your spouses’ most unacceptable- and also extremely minor- infractions. Whether it’s turning off the AC, creating a Sock Mountain, or pausing Netflix to point out plot holes, these husband (and wife) crimes deserve justice.

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When Should Kids Tell?
Aug. 7, 2019

When Should Kids Tell?

Most little kids have an ironclad sense of right and wrong and are happy to report on whoever isn’t sharing in the dress-up corner. But as they get older, the stakes get higher- for them, for us, for the kid being "told on.” When should kids tell?

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Imaginative Kids: Is It Ever Too Much of a Good Thing?
July 31, 2019

Imaginative Kids: Is It Ever Too Much of a Good Thing?

Can a kid ever have TOO good of an imagination? Does there come a time when we need to lead kids back to reality? Will they take their imaginary friends to prom if we don’t? Here’s why an overly active imagination is almost always a wonderful thing.

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When Kids Prefer the Other Parent Over You (Or You Over Them)
July 24, 2019

When Kids Prefer the Other Parent Over You (Or You Over Them)

Why do kids prefer one parent over the other? Why do those allegiances shift as kids grow? Are we supposed to ignore our own hurt feelings because it’s developmentally appropriate? Or are there times when we should push back?  Here’s how to know.

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The Mom Gap: Getting Back Out There (with guest Christina Geist)
July 17, 2019

The Mom Gap: Getting Back Out There (with guest Christina Geist)

How do we own the time we've spent out of the workforce? How do we re-enter our former careers— or find new opportunities? Guest: Christina Geist, mom-gap survivor and author of the new children's book SORRY GROWNUPS, YOU CAN’T GO TO SCHOOL!

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When Your Kids Take Everything Out On You
July 10, 2019

When Your Kids Take Everything Out On You

Parenting experts say we shouldn’t take our kids’ snarkiness towards us personally. But shouldn’t we insist on their respect? What happens when it really starts to wear us down? Here’s why kids take it all out on us, and how to lower our reactivity.

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Teaching Kids Empathy
July 3, 2019

Teaching Kids Empathy

What is empathy, exactly? It’s not pity… or passive. Empathy involves both emotion and action. For our kids, it’s an acquired skill- one that needs our guidance and encouragement to be cultivated. Here’s how to model and teach empathetic behavior.

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House Rules That Work
June 26, 2019

House Rules That Work

What are your house rules- the ones that keep your home life tolerable, the ones kids know so well they self-police? Whether it’s “no feet where we eat” or “ask Mom twice and it’s no forever,” here are our (and your) house rules to live by.

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Finding Your Mom Tribe
June 19, 2019

Finding Your Mom Tribe

How do we find a mom tribe? How can we get closer with the ones we already have? Do online tribes count? In an age when our family of origin is less likely than ever to live next door, here’s how to invest in the communities happening where we are.

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Letting Our Kids Feel Unsafe (In a Safe Way) with Guest Evangeline Lilly
June 12, 2019

Letting Our Kids Feel Unsafe (In a Safe Way) with Guest Evangeline Li…

How can we allow ourselves to allow our kids to experience the exhilaration of feeling just a little unsafe? How does risky play create more confident adults? Guest: actress and author Evangeline Lilly, author of the book series The Squickerwonkers.

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Do We Really Have To Play With Our Kids? When Parenting Feels Relentless
May 15, 2019

Do We Really Have To Play With Our Kids? When Parenting Feels Relentl…

Parenting really is more demanding than it used to be. We spend three times as many hours playing with our kids as our mothers did.  But why? Do we really need to curate kids’ every waking moment? Or might they be better off playing in a dirt pile?

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Mom Wins! (and Mother's Day Fails)
May 8, 2019

Mom Wins! (and Mother's Day Fails)

Happy Mother’s Day Week! We are passing out some Mom Awards to our listeners to counteract the lukewarm eggs benedict, hastily-purchased cards, and kindergarten art projects proclaiming, in 3-inch crayoned letters, that your favorite food is “BEER.”

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Screen-Free Week: How To Survive and Why It's Worth It
April 24, 2019

Screen-Free Week: How To Survive and Why It's Worth It

Screen-Free Week starts 4/29. If the very notion sends ice through your veins, you’re not alone! But we loved it, and we think you might too. We discuss how to prepare, what to do instead, and why it’s all truly worth it. Learn more: screenfree.org.

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Changing How We Talk To Our Kids (with guest Dr. Wendy Mogel)
April 17, 2019

Changing How We Talk To Our Kids (with guest Dr. Wendy Mogel)

We know what’s wrong with how our kids speak to us: the sarcasm and eye-rolling are two things we could live without. But does how we talk to our kids need a little fine-tuning as well? Guest: Dr. Wendy Mogel, author of VOICE LESSONS FOR PARENTS.

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