Nov. 4, 2020

When To Be 'That Mom'

What does it mean to be ‘that mom’? How should we pick our battles? How do we enter tough conversations prepared for combat but ready to listen? Here’s when that we (and our listeners) went full mama bear, how we advocated, and why it was worth it.


We asked all of you to tell us about the times you had to be "that mom." You responded with tales of IEP meetings, and airplanes full of tiny sacks of peanuts, and kindergarten bullies– all the times you went full mama-bear because advocating for your kid (or someone else's kid) was more important, in the moment, than being liked.

In this episode we discuss:

  • whether there's such a thing as "that dad" (what do YOU think?)
  • how to pick your battles
  • how to come prepared for combat but ready to listen
  • how to bring solutions, and not just problems


An unexpectedly touching side topic: many of you wrote in with memories of your own mom standing up for you. That's important to remember when you're being "that mom" and the biggest eye-rolls are coming from your own kid. They'll look back on that moment a lot differently.

This was such a terrific discussion on our Facebook group- join us and check out the full thread:

https://www.facebook.com/whatfreshhellcast/posts/3745278268817917


Here are links to two of our other episodes that we mention in this one, and where being "that mom" is definitely part of the picture:

Bullies (Episode 103): https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/2019/05/bullies-episode-103/

How Do We Handle This When Everyone Is Doing It Differently? (Episode 160): https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/2020/06/ep160/

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