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Nov. 27, 2019

The Whining is Killing Us

Whining is what experts call a “low-power strategy of dominance.” Kids do it because it’s what’s available to them. Since it drives parents bonkers, it’s remarkably effective. Can we deal with whining in ways that might make it stop a …

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Nov. 25, 2019

Ask Margaret - Should I Throw Away the Diapers?

This week Margaret answers a question from a listener whose potty trainer is having some trouble giving up diapers.

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Nov. 20, 2019

Meeting Our Kids Where They Are

Sometimes our kids are a little behind on meeting their milestones. Sometimes they’ll never reach those milestones at all. How do we let go of “should be”? How do we meet our kids where they are, while still holding expectations …

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Nov. 13, 2019

The Small Things That Drive Moms Insane

Sometimes it’s the little things that make us the craziest: the plastic thingies on juice box straws. The never-ending “Mom?” with that question mark at the end. Here’s all the teeny-tiny things about mom life that still manage to drive …

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Nov. 6, 2019

Why Kids Tell Lies (and When It's Okay)

Why do kids tell lies? How do we know when it’s a problem? Making kids admit their lies isn’t always necessary, as long as we parent in ways that focus less on those falsehoods and more on our kids making …

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Oct. 30, 2019

Better Then or Better Now?

Anyone old enough to remember New Coke thinks things were better in the free-wheeling, “come home when it’s dark” days of our childhood. But were they really? We decide whether the things we loved are better then or better now- …

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Oct. 23, 2019

Changing the Invisible Workload (with guest Eve Rodsky)

If you make a list of all the stuff you do that your spouse has no idea happens, it will probably be very long and rage-inducing. So don’t stop there! Here’s how to redistribute the household workload for good. Guest …

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Oct. 16, 2019

When We Should (And Shouldn't) Rescue Our Kids

When kids need rescuing, they look to Mom. Whether we do so or not, we’re left second-guessing whatever it is we just did. Here’s when we should step in, and when we should hang back— and how to give our …

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Oct. 9, 2019

Parenting With An Audience

Have you ever felt coerced into parenting in a way you usually wouldn’t because you were in public? Is the disapproval of Aunt Joan even worse than eyerolls from strangers? Here’s how to stay focused even when it’s YOUR kid …

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Oct. 2, 2019

When Other Kids Are Bad Influences

What is it about the kid who throws sand that other kids find so irresistible? How do we keep our kids away from bad influences in their lives, especially as they get older? And why do parents sometimes peg exactly …

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Sept. 25, 2019

Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions

We asked all of you for your hot takes and unpopular opinions. From athleisure to mayonnaise to french-fry consistency to the enduring fame of Coldplay, these are your extremely fervent feelings about things most of us hadn’t seriously considered.

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Sept. 18, 2019

When One of Our Kids Is Taking All Our Bandwidth

There are a lot of reasons that one kid might be hogging our bandwidth. Some are positive; some not so much. Sometimes it’s temporary; sometimes it's a “new normal” that can reshape family dynamics. Here’s how to keep our other …

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Sept. 11, 2019

Managing the Grandparent Relationship

What do we do when our parents overindulge our kids? Or undermine our parenting choices in front of them? What about when our parents don't seem interested in our kids at all? Here’s how to create grandparent relationships that work …

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Sept. 4, 2019

How To Prepare Our Kids Now to Be Grown and Flown (with guest Lisa He…

Our kids are pretty happy being dependent on us. Doesn’t a grilled cheese taste so much better when Mom makes it? So how do we start the nest-leaving process early and often? Guest: Mary Dell Harrington, co-author of the new …

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Aug. 21, 2019

Parenting Styles: Which Ones Are We (And Should We Care?)

Helicopter moms, snowplow moms, tiger moms, free-range moms…these parenting types are usually defined in the negative: well, at least I’m not THAT. But might there be useful takeaways from any parenting style that we can custom-blend for ourselves?

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Aug. 14, 2019

Husband Crimes: Can This Marriage Be Saved?

We asked you to tell us your spouses’ most unacceptable- and also extremely minor- infractions. Whether it’s turning off the AC, creating a Sock Mountain, or pausing Netflix to point out plot holes, these husband (and wife) crimes deserve justice.

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Aug. 7, 2019

When Should Kids Tell?

Most little kids have an ironclad sense of right and wrong and are happy to report on whoever isn’t sharing in the dress-up corner. But as they get older, the stakes get higher- for them, for us, for the kid …

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July 31, 2019

Imaginative Kids: Is It Ever Too Much of a Good Thing?

Can a kid ever have TOO good of an imagination? Does there come a time when we need to lead kids back to reality? Will they take their imaginary friends to prom if we don’t? Here’s why an overly active …

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July 24, 2019

When Kids Prefer the Other Parent Over You (Or You Over Them)

Why do kids prefer one parent over the other? Why do those allegiances shift as kids grow? Are we supposed to ignore our own hurt feelings because it’s developmentally appropriate? Or are there times when we should push back? Here’s …

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July 17, 2019

The Mom Gap: Getting Back Out There (with guest Christina Geist)

How do we own the time we've spent out of the workforce? How do we re-enter our former careers— or find new opportunities? Guest: Christina Geist, mom-gap survivor and author of the new children's book SORRY GROWNUPS, YOU CAN’T GO …

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July 10, 2019

When Your Kids Take Everything Out On You

Parenting experts say we shouldn’t take our kids’ snarkiness towards us personally. But shouldn’t we insist on their respect? What happens when it really starts to wear us down? Here’s why kids take it all out on us, and how …

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July 3, 2019

Teaching Kids Empathy

What is empathy, exactly? It’s not pity… or passive. Empathy involves both emotion and action. For our kids, it’s an acquired skill- one that needs our guidance and encouragement to be cultivated. Here’s how to model and teach empathetic behavior.

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June 26, 2019

House Rules That Work

What are your house rules- the ones that keep your home life tolerable, the ones kids know so well they self-police? Whether it’s “no feet where we eat” or “ask Mom twice and it’s no forever,” here are our (and …

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June 19, 2019

Finding Your Mom Tribe

How do we find a mom tribe? How can we get closer with the ones we already have? Do online tribes count? In an age when our family of origin is less likely than ever to live next door, here’s …

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