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Feb. 12, 2021

From the Vault: Anger Management for Kids

In this episode from Jan 2020 Amy and Margaret discuss the best ways to help our kids (and ourselves) manage our kids' anger.

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Feb. 10, 2021

Setting Boundaries

Boundaries aren’t just for relationships that have already been damaged. Healthy boundaries with our partners, friends, and extended family are what make long-term relationships possible. Here’s how to set boundaries early and often.

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Feb. 8, 2021

Ask Amy- Surviving The "Only Mommy" Phase

A toddler's "only mommy" phase is just that. It's temporary. But it's a struggle for Mom nonetheless, even if her toddler's devotion is adorable. Here's how to get through it.

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Feb. 5, 2021

Fresh Take: Dr. Harold Koplewicz on the Best Way To Support Our Kids

Parents shouldn’t be the architects of their children’s lives. Or the builders. Dr. Harold Koplewicz, author of THE SCAFFOLD EFFECT: Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant and Secure Kids in an Age of Anxiety, tells us how best to support our kids’ growth.

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Feb. 3, 2021

The Things We're Never Going Back To

This pandemic situation has not been great. But there are things we have been freed from and are hereby declaring we’ll never do, or wear, or worry about again. Here’s what we (and our listeners) are, with great determination, never …

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Feb. 1, 2021

Ask Margaret - Talking to Kids About Death

A listener asks how to help a child asking anxious questions after his classmate's parent died.

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Jan. 29, 2021

Fresh Take: Dr. Christine Koh On Building a Family After Adverse Chil…

Dr. Christine Koh creates content to help people live better and happier. She also grew up with adverse childhood experiences. We discuss the CDC ACEs framework for understanding early diversity, and how to go on and build happy families of …

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Jan. 27, 2021

How To Stop Having The Same Fight

Having the same fight doesn’t mean your relationship is broken. But it is totally annoying. Here are the modes of negativity that are at work when we repeat the same conflicts- and what we can do to break the cycle, …

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Jan. 25, 2021

Ask Amy: When Your Kid is Super-Clingy

A parent asks for advice on dealing with a clingy 9-year-old. Amy suggests rewarding small shows of independence with praise, and offering quality time during your child’s preferred activity in return for accepting some time apart without complaint.

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Jan. 22, 2021

Fresh Take: Dr. Edward Hallowell on the Newest Science and Essential …

Dr. Edward Hallowell, co-author of ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction--From Childhood Through Adulthood, explains the growing understanding of ADHD- and offers new hacks for brains with “variable attention.”

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Jan. 20, 2021

Okay, We Annoy Ourselves Also

We often express righteous anger at all the completely infuriating and totally trivial things that other people, usually related to us, do to annoy us. Today we look inward– and admit the things we do that are so irksome that …

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Jan. 18, 2021

Ask Margaret - How To Turn Off Screens Without Tears

A listener asks how to help her child regulate the strong emotions that arise whenever it's time for screens to go off.

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Jan. 15, 2021

Fresh Take: Mirna Valerio Tells Us How To Find Our Fitness

Mirna Valerio is a runner, adventurer, speaker, and anti-racism educator. We discuss her experiences as a larger woman in a world of endurance athletes, and how to reacquaint ourselves with fitness, no matter how long we’ve been out of the …

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Jan. 11, 2021

The Mom That Covid Has Made Me

How has Covid affected you as a mom? Are you more socially anxious? Have you found the isolation sort of reassuring? Are you at your breaking point? Are you treasuring the extra time with your kids? Will any of this …

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Jan. 11, 2021

Ask Amy - My Kid Thinks There Are Monsters Under The Bed

How can we deal with the monsters-under-the-bed phase? For kids who still believe in magical things as fully possible, the best "protection" we can offer them from something scary but imaginary might be something equally unreal and totally wonderful.

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Jan. 8, 2021

Fresh Take: Ned Johnson on The Self-Driven Child

This week we’re talking to Ned Johnson, co-author (with William Stixrud) of THE SELF-DRIVEN CHILD: THE SCIENCE AND SENSE OF GIVING YOUR KIDS MORE CONTROL OVER THEIR LIVES, which explores how fostering children’s autonomy can ...

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Jan. 6, 2021

Your Life Begins Again When... (The Second Half of Parenting)

We asked our listeners: when did your pre-parenting life of ease snap back into focus? Was it the day your kids take a shower solo? Navigated steps safely? Turned on the TV at 6:30 am on a Saturday? Better days …

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Jan. 4, 2021

Ask Margaret- My Kid Is Sneaking Food and Screens Up To Her Room

Margaret answers a question from a listener whose daughter has become sneaky about things that are supposed to be off-limits.

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Dec. 30, 2020

2020: What Was That?

We review the very problematic 2020: what we talked about this year, the impossibility of “solving” any of this, and how this podcast has become a time capsule of our “negativity bias,” worries, hopes– and above all, survival. We made …

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Dec. 22, 2020

We Ask Each Other Burning Questions

After four years of doing this podcast, we know a lot about each other. In this episode, we ask each other the burning questions that remain.

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Dec. 21, 2020

Ask Amy- How Can I Help My Reluctant Pooper?

A listener asks how to help her toddler whose stool withholding has become painful and possibly chronic.

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Dec. 16, 2020

Extremely Achievable Holiday Traditions

This episode is full of super-easy ways to make the holiday season more fun without also being more expensive. These ideas are Christmas-based, although holiday lights and red flannel jammies probably have pagan roots anyhow, so come one come all!

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Dec. 14, 2020

Ask Margaret - When Your Parent-Teacher Conference Doesn't Go So Well

Margaret talks about parent-teacher conferences and why it’s important to remember that you, as the parent, aren’t the one being graded.

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Dec. 11, 2020

Fresh Take: Susan Katz Miller on Interfaith Families at the Holidays

The holidays are already intense, but if your family is interfaith, it can ratchet up the pressure for perfection times two. Guest Susan Katz Miller, author of THE INTERFAITH FAMILY JOURNAL, tells us how to draw a “sacred circle” around …

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